Re: FN-FORUM: WAY OT

date posted 28th October 2006 19:57

Hi Clare,

I know I am not a male but thought I would mention a couple of things.

Use the time to think carefully about what you want from your future and
whether he could be a part of that, I know it's scary but everything down to
whether you both want marriage, kids, where you want to live, when you want
to do all that and whether that annoying habit he has is going to bearable
forever.

When you have this break make sure you set a timescale to make contact with
eachother. The worst thing for you is to be sitting there waiting for the
phone to ring because you don't know when he will be in touch to say whether
he wants you or not. It may be that this point it is to early for either of
you to decide but at least it is a way of checking in and saying how are
you. If he cares for you (and your sanity) he will be willing to do this.
During the rest of the time try not to have any contact with eachother.

Best of luck, try and use it as a positive
Cat





>Clare Plumtree wrote:
>>
>>Hi.
>>Sorry about how far OT this is just I wanted to ask a question knowing
>>there are quite a few males on here!
>>My boyfriend and I have been together for two years (September) and he
>>tells me now he wants to have a break. What in English does this mean?
>>Just this is my first long term relationship and as far as I knew
>>things were OK, although I could tell something wasn't quite right his
>>end of things for whatever reason (i was beginning to think he didn't
>>love me anymore!). Hes told me it's so he can sort his head out and
>>decide what he wants in his future, but why does he need to break up
>>the relationship for that? He assures me he still loves me and cares
>>about me, It doesn't make sense to me!
>>He's quite a shy guy so there isn't likely to be anyone else on the
>>scene, I just wondered if any of the guys out there could shed some
>>light for me!
>>LOL, bizarre topic I know, but TIA, I hope!
>>
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