Re: FN-FORUM: OT - Custody of children for fathers

date posted 1st November 2006 16:21

got thoguht, make brain hurt

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> ig ot a thoguht, speak to a solicitor
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>>Lee Fogarty wrote:
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>>>Sorry for the OT post!
>>>
>>>I'm wondering if any fathers here have tried getting custody of their
>>>children and if they succeeded or not. My main concern is the irregular
>>>income, however I have been main carer for the children for some time.
>>>
>>>Any ideas/thoughts?
>>>
>>Hi
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>>I'm a mother, but it doesn't make a difference no matter what Fathers
>>for whatever say.
>>unfortunately I have been all the way through this one, My x has taken me
>>to court for full custody 4 times in the last 6 six years, at first we
>>had 50/50 joint custody, which was upheld twice, then he applied again,
>>and this time insisted that full custody was the only thing he would
>>accept, the courts agreed with him and awarded full custody to me ( which
>>completely ruined my previous 6 months work, as I had a good client in
>>Surrey, and one week on one week off meant that I could easily work with
>>them, once I had full custody, I couldn't get there on a regular enough
>>basis.)
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>>then last year he applied again for full custody, and I had a nervous
>>breakdown - so he finally got what he wanted.
>>My son always just wanted 50/50 , but it doesn't necessarily work like
>>that even when they are over 12 and can (in theory) make their own choice.
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>>there are some questions:
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>>were you married to their mother?
>>(if not do you have legal parental responsibility ?)
>>how old are the children?
>>how much of the time do they spend with you (on average)?
>>do you hold the child benefit books for any of them?
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>>in terms of income, if you have the child benefit book you can claim
>>child tax credit which should help on the income side of it. You will
>>have to argue with tax credits a bit, but they should work out your
>>claim from your last years tax return. If they are awkward, ask to be
>>processed manually (you can but they won't tell you that ) and get your
>>MP involved, they have a special helpline just for MPs queries at the tax
>>credit offices. Oh and ALL your calls to them are recorded, if you ask
>>for data protection info, they will offer to send you a DVD of all of
>>your conversations with them, I always write a letter and send it signed
>>for ( ask for the one that costs about a quid in the post office)
>>
>>Best advice is to try to negotiate with their mother rather than go down
>>the legal route, you should be able to get an appointment with one of
>>the organisations like relate who will help you to negotiate if you can
>>get her cooperation ( didn't work for me though)
>>
>>Good Luck, I hope you can get a peaceful resolution.
>>Carrie
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